30. Third-Party Escalation Tool

Problem

You’re repeating the same conflict loop with no progress.

What this looks like

• Repeated friction around the same pattern
• Lower emotional safety and warmth
• No shared system to correct course

Tool: How to run it

1. Name the problem in one sentence, no blame.
2. Agree a 10–20 minute time box.
3. Use one script + one measurable action this week.
4. Review results in your weekly check-in.

Script starter

"I want us to win. The pattern I see is: _____. Can we try Third-Party Escalation Tool for 7 days and review on Sunday?"

Success metric

Rate this area 1–10 today and again in 7 days. Keep if score improves by 2+ points.